Nov 26 2014
It is definitely the rainy season in Vancouver! Wow, the days are so short, dark and wet.
We Vancouverites really give ourselves permission to complain about the weather when it is like this, don’t we? Well, I have been thinking about a different angle that I would like to share with you. The rain is what makes our city so vibrant, clean and fresh. Sure, it can cause havoc on our new hair cut, get our clothes wet and make cycling downright miserable. Putting these things aside, I am challenging myself to think differently about the rain and dark days….here is my secret….I am trying to love what is.
That simple…Love what is actually happening. I learned about this idea by reading Byron Katie’s books. She has helped me to stop arguing with reality, thinking that I have the power to change what is actually happening. Her approach is simply question any stressful thought,(like, I hate the rain!) ask yourself if it is true and can you know absolutely that it is true. Then ask yourself who you are without this thought, what mood would you be in without resenting the rain for example. Finally, turn the statement around. “I love the rain”. See if that is true…it may be even more true than hating the rain…
This is of course a simplified version of her approach. For more information about her work, go to www.thework.com
As I walked to work in the rain today, I asked myself what I loved about the rain and came up with these answers:
-I get to carry my beautiful purple umbrella that my husband gave me.
-I love the smell of the rain
-I love how dramatic the rain can be when if comes down really hard.
-I love how happy the plants are with lots of water
This approach helps me to not be a war with reality….Here is one of her quotes:
“Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside of me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone else to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power. What we are doing with inquiry is meeting our thoughts with some simple understanding, finally. Pain, anger, and frustration will let us know when it’s time to inquire.
We either believe what we think or we question it: there’s no other choice. Questioning our thoughts is the kinder way. Inquiry always leaves us as more loving human beings.” -Byron Katie
By Lori Johnson, RMT and Owner of Soma